LINER NOTES
As a journalist, asking questions is a huge part of my job.
It comes natural to me, so much so that it bleeds into my everyday life. I’m always asking friends, neighbors and even strangers questions about their life, passions and interests, especially when it’s something I’m less knowledgeable about.
You could say I’m on a constant quest to learn more and broaden my perspectives with every single interaction. That’s true indeed, but the art of asking is so much bigger than journalism.
Some years ago, I read a memoir by Amanda Palmer — a musician I have loved since my teen years who played in a two-piece called The Dresden Dolls.
Her memoir, titled “The Art of Asking,” was all about how we as humans must put our egos aside and be unafraid to ask.
Not only must we be willing to ask questions when we don’t understand or when getting to know more about someone or something, but we must also ask others for help when we need it. That’s the rub, where pride often gets in the way.
Asking is something we should all be doing, no matter the ask.
That’s how we best connect with others, even when it is asking for help or support.
In fact, I think that’s when we connect the most. And isn’t human connection kind of the point of … well, everything?
So next time you’re out and about meeting someone new or speaking with an old friend, take an interest in them and ask questions. You can learn so much from every single person you meet. We are all filled with a plethora of thoughts, feelings and viewpoints. I’m betting, if you just ask, you’ll realize you have more in common with others — even those you think you wouldn’t — than you could ever imagine.
And next time you’re down and out, be fearless and ask for the help or support you need. You’d be surprised how many people, even strangers, will happily step up to the plate.
Kelley is the Centex Group area editor for the Taylor Press and Elgin Courier.
